I seriously just saw this shared by a cousin of mine. I’d like to say that I’m shocked, but sadly, I’m not.
I just have no words. Well, actually I do – but they’re a jumbled mess inside my head and I’m afraid to unstop the flow.
I called her out on it, but I’m sure nothing will come of it. Crying inside!
In life, always remember that your reality may be different from another person’s reality. This would go a LONG way in solving problems – vast and small.
What this means, is that two people can share an experience, but come away from it with different feelings, different meaning, different interpretations, and therefore different realities.
It does not mean that one is wrong and one is right.It means that dialogue needs to take place to gain a better understanding of the differences.
Imagine what the world would be like if we were to always keep this in mind. No, it wouldn’t erase problems. That would be boring. It would allow us to be empathetic to others and work through problems.
I should update my “About” page to indicate that part of my randomness is that sometimes I just don’t feel like writing. For some, that means a few days off or re post other stories. For me it means that I disappear for long periods of time!
Some women have a shoe problem, others a purse problem. Some have an addiction to clothes.
I don’t have those problems, thankfully.
I have a hanger problem!
Myth Busters says slipping on a banana peel is a myth. Here’s the video of that part of the episode.
I’m here to tell you, it is not a myth. It may not be guaranteed that you slip and fall, but the same could be true of walking on ice. You are not guaranteed to fall, but your chances of falling increase.
I thought of this as I was getting out of the car this morning and noticed a hole in the knee of my slacks. I slipped on a banana peel in a wet, dark parking lot at the end of November. My knee is still tender and these slacks must be the ones I was wearing when I fell. My foot slipped backwards as I was bringing my other foot forward, so I went down hard on my knee and then down on my bottom.
With 2016 elections approaching and the tragedy in France, I’ve seen a lot of debate on social media. Or at least have seen a lot of what appears to resemble debate, but is not truly debate.
First, what is debate? It is basically argument, sometimes formal, most of the time about controversial subjects. Formal debate is heavily based on logic and evidence. This brings to mind argument fallacies. Fallacies are incorrect arguments in logic and rhetoric which undermines an argument’s logical validity or more generally an argument’s logical soundness.
One of the most common fallacies I see is “argumentum ad hominem” – the evasion of the actual topic by directing an attack at your opponent. Examples include
– Republicans calling democrats cry babies.
– Democrats calling republicans greedy piles of shit.
– Pro refugee location individuals calling the other side fear mongers, un Christian, un caring, etc.
– Anti refugee relocation individuals calling the other side naive, Muslim lovers, etc.
– And all of the above groups mocking each other.
Please stop the madness!
I have had a long term fear of expressing my opinion in general, but especially when it is in disagreement with someone. I have gradually been working through it and have made my voice be heard lately. Some people probably think I’ve made it be heard too frequently and too loudly. And sometimes I come on too strong or too negatively, so that doesn’t help.
Between finding my voice and my passion for knowledge and sharing of said knowledge, I have upset a few people. But I have also started dialog between a few family members in the area of carefully considering the impact of far right religious views when mixed with politics. There IS such a thing as too far right, just like too far left can have negative impacts.
This is why I share the things I share. This is why I comment on posts that make no sense. Some of it is because I want to understand why someone thinks the way he or she does. And some of it is to share my point of view. It is never to convert a person to my way of thinking. In a balanced conversation, all parties will learn and grow, even if no one changes their original opinion.
We live in a society where it is considered negative to disagree. I think that I would have agreed with that as recent as a few months ago. I no longer agree with it though. I believe that it has set us back as a country. Some of us are afraid to speak up, most of us can’t do it in a helpful or well thought out way, and many of us shut others down if they disagree. I’ve had at least 2 family members unfriend me, a high school friend said she’s unfollowing me, and who knows how many have slipped through the cracks unnoticed?
Yet employers are in constant search for good problem solving skills and critical thinkers. How do we build these skills in a world that is too scared to disagree? Or too worried about being politically correct? Or too prone to join in verbal combat instead of discussion with a focus on understanding. Or just not willing to hear opposition.
I struggle finding balance, but if you are a person I know face-to-face, please understand what I’m saying here. And please feel free to reach out to me with questions or concerns.