Someone who thinks in absolutes misses out on possibilities. There’s no gray area for them. They cannot see the big picture. This can backfire in many parenting situations. As kids get older, parents need to provide information and opinions so that kids can make their own decisions. It is how they learn. If a parent says, “if you do x, y WILL happen,” they are essentially limiting possibilities. If the child listens to the parent, they may miss out on something. It is discouragement based on the parent’s own experiences. As parents we should keep our “Because it worked that way for me, it will work like that for you.” to a minimum. Even when we mean well.