In response to Easy Fix.
Let’s face it, most things that are worth it in life are NOT easily fixed. This is particularly true when it is regarding development of our own mental health.
I’ve became aware that I was not emotionally well about 5 or 6 years ago. I think I had not been happy for several years before that. It was quickly moving to the point where it was no longer a matter of “not being happy” – but “being depressed.” That was the first step, recognizing that I wasn’t well.
It has been a long journey and I’m going to be on it for the rest of my life. Some of the things I’ve learned
- Gratitude and thankfulness go a long way towards improving mental health. I don’t keep a journal about this, because I’m not that routine. But I do think about it on nearly a daily basis.
- When I find my mind slipping towards the negative, I try to find the positive in a situation. Instead of, “Oh no, school called again about my son being in melt down mode.” I try to turn it around and think “Wow, it has been almost 2 months since I got a call like this.”
- Building a network of supporters is critical and an area that I am just now working on improving for myself. I am one of those women who gave up self to focus on kids and husband (in that order). I have no close friends and only a handful of acquaintances. I have joined a group of ladies who meet 2 or 3 times a month, one time dedicated to bunco. I also have no hobbies, but am working on becoming more involved with photography.
- Being true to oneself is also critical. I am learning to set boundaries and stick to them. I am learning to speak my thoughts in a kind way instead of burying them in fear of causing conflict.
And all was will be right in the world.