YOLO – you only live once – became popular in the teen crowd sometime in 2012. The concept vaguely resembles carpe deim, except that actions in the name of YOLO are often done without regard to consequences. With YOLO, the focus is on doing something now because you might not get the chance tomorrow. It promotes reckless behavior. Wikipedia defines carpe deim: “The ode [Odes 1.11] says that the future is unforeseen and that one should not leave to chance future happenings, but rather one should do all one can today to make one’s future better.”
YOLO in Music
- Ke$ha, Die Young: “let’s make the most of the night like we’re gonna die young”
- Ne-Yo, Give Me Everything Tonight: “Give me everything tonight. For all we know, we might not get tomorrow, let’s do it tonight.”
- The Lonely Island, YOLO: parody of being safe and anti-yolo.
- Drake, The Motto: very nasty song, half of which I don’t really understand. But it seems VERY disrespectful to others, especially women – all in the name of YOLO.
YOLO as an excuse for bad decisions
- Getting drunk and later regretting a bad decision, or acting like you don’t regret it.
- Going out with “the guys” or “the girls” and staying out all night drinking or doing drugs because you’re mad at your partner.
- Having an affair because you’re not getting your needs met by your spouse or partner.
- Making a bad choice to spite someone who cares about you (like a parent or spouse).
- Skip school, because after all – YOLO.
YOLO for the good (carpe deim)
- Don’t leave it to chance that the person you love will always love you. Treat that person nice today. Meet that person’s needs now to ensure their love continues. Show that person you care.
- Work hard today to gain the notice of your boss and increase the potential for good job duties or promotion.
- Don’t wait until tomorrow to connect with your kids. Tomorrow they will be teenagers, or off to college, or busy with a friend (maybe making poor choices in the name of YOLO) – and it will be that much harder to connect.
- Don’t wait until tomorrow to tell your elderly parents that you love them. Tomorrow might be too late, so visit them today (or at least call).
- Don’t wait until tomorrow to learn how to communicate better with your partner. The sooner you admit that you need help with this difficult skill, the sooner you can improve your relationship.
I could list a million more examples (maybe I exaggerate a bit), but I just don’t have the time nor the space on this blog. Help yourself and your kids to focus the YOLO on positives!!!